on people

You know I was thinking....

How people can sometimes feel paranoid and seems to think that everybody else is blaming them or judging them? For example, you did something which might be out of control, like falling in love with a guy, out of certain circumstances...then people happen to know about it, well maybe they might have their opinions about it but most of the time, they will just forget about it, much less talk about it again.

But then yeah, the character which was talked about might seem to feel guilty and paranoid and starts to isolate oneself from others just because they themselves know they might have done something out of the ordinary and FEEL and THINK that people are just talking behind their back. I have something to say to them: what the heck...yes we talked, and then we forget about it, we do have other things to think about! so why are you taking it so seriously?? You're just being paranoid, my dear. We never judge, but you think we did.

and oh yeah, there was this incident: the 'hottest' couple in campus broke up, we didn't know about it initially but then things got very OBVIOUS without spoken words, you know like the sudden disappearance of cutesy testimonials in friendster, and the sudden rarity of seeing the couple together and the sudden change in the guy's attitude.

So yeah, we found that out without any paparazzi, so yeah we talked within close friends, and forgot about it the next day....when suddenly some of us got accused of spreading rumours.. what rumours, for God's sake?? and heh yeah add up a 'press conference' that nobody asked for from the exgirlfriend. You guys broke up, so what? Well, what can I say...when you're attached, don't leave your friends and be friendly ah!

It's sad to think how foolish some people can be when they are only trying to justify their deeds and maybe there is just a little speck of guilty and uneasiness and attribute those to the don't-know-anything people around, how cruel can that be? Or maybe there is anger of what happened in their lives and there's no channel to vent the anger except to put the blame on others. What unfortunate luck to be the 'others.' How foolish can they be?

I would like to quote a good friend and leader who said in speech about ATTITUDES. I totally agree with him about how our own attitudes determine our relationship with other people. Our bad attitude will repel others, otherwise people will treat us as good as we treat them.

If you leave people, people will leave you. It's karma, we say. But I say, it's your own conscious and intention.

Lord, save us from misdeeds and increase us in knowledge.